I've heard things that have been said about me, but the two labels that seem to have been tied to my wagon the most frequently are "wild woman" and "cougar". I don't find the term "cougar" flattering and I certainly don't wear it as a badge of honor, although if someone else chooses to do so, I have no problem with that. First of all, I don't see myself that way at all. I do not pursue (and am not interested in pursuing) men way younger than myself. My daughter will tell you tho', I seem to draw the 20-something crowd. They seem to seek me out, NOT the reverse. In another aspect, it annoys me because of the double standard that exists. If a woman seeks a much younger man, she is called a cougar. A man, however, is not only EXPECTED to pursue younger women, but celebrated when doing so. That same double standard seems to apply with sexual patterns/behaviors. If a woman has sexual relations with many men, she is a slut. A man is applauded, sometimes even rewarded and celebrated, for the same type of behavior.
I had a friend in high school that was labeled a slut. She was tormented, talked about, teased, and truly bullied. Her life was a living hell for several years. She changed schools, her family changed phone numbers, and they eventually moved. People accepted that label of my friend at face value because a popular football player started it. Interestingly enough, my friend was a virgin until she married.
What about the Wild Woman label that is so often attributed to me? What consitutes a "Wild Woman"? I enjoy life. I live it to the fullest and I know how to have fun. Why does that make me wild? I am judged on what people PERCEIVE me to be doing versus what I am really doing. I am NOT permiscuous. I DON'T drink a lot. I DON'T do drugs. I may occasionally break a minor rule or law (i.e. speeding), but under most circumstances, I am a law abiding citizen. Have I danced on table tops? You betcha (and completely sober too)! Do I sometimes spend time with people half my age? You bet I do! Do I enjoy a variety of music and go to (*gasp*) concerts? Bet your boots I do! Is that wrong? Does it make me wild? If that is the case, call me WILD!! :-)
Why do we have to label people? Do you accept labels at face value or do you try to get to know a person as the individual they are? I admit, I have been guilty of things like this in my past, but as I've aged and hopefully matured, I have learned that much of the time, a person is NOT what many people perceive them to be. One of the most remarkable things in the world to me is the person who is UNIQUE. Who wants to live in a world where everyone is the same? BORING! Let's try celebrating our differences!
I am unique! I am an indivdual. I am ME! I might be a WILD WOMAN....and that's okay with me ! :-)